what do you think about death/grief? I have been trying to make sense of my mom's suicide for 3 years and it hasn't stopped eating at me.
The idea that one we love, we see everyday can, in an instant, be gone from our lives is one of the hardest parts of being human. When we love then we automatically set ourselves up for sorrow when the object of our love is taken from us.
What to do?
We can’t simply stop loving. What is life without love? So, what then is the answer to dealing with such loss? What would the Buddha say? The answer is actually quite simple. We grieve. We feel sorrow. Yet, we also accept. In accepting the inevitability of death and change we are freed from the suffering it brings. Why not accept. We cannot bring back our lost loved ones so instead we embrace their memory. We remember their names in meditation. We allow the pain to flow through us and around us while we remain, solidly grounded, like a rock in a stream.
“You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.”—Elizabeth Gilbert (via backtothegun)
maybe i’m a goddamn bleeding heart hippie liberal but i’m totally down with paying an extra .50 cents for a thing of fries if the person who makes me those fries doesn’t have to work 3 jobs just to survive.